If These Walls Could Talk

If walls could talk As a realtor I am in other people’s homes up to 50 times a week.  Behind every front door is a private world.  Sometimes it is a sad, desperate world and sensitive people tell me they feel the negative energies as if house itself has absorbed them.  A couple of times I would agree that something seemed off, only to find out later that members of the previous family suffered from substance abuse, cruelty, or a horribly dysfunctional relationship.   It wasn’t just my imagination. All I can say is the home could be wonderful in every material manner, but I not get out of there fast enough.

Ecology house in handsConversely, I am convinced there are “happy family” homes.  These homes seem to exude love and joy.  I began to wonder if there were ways to rid the home of the bad feelings, so they could be infused with peace and gladness.



Don’t buy into all of this? Whether or not one feels the need to cleanse a home of these energies, buyers frequently have rituals that make their new home their own.  For instance, women frequently wash the inside of all cabinets even if they appear spotless. Others want to immediately paint even if it is only the front door.  Adding plants outside and inside is another common change.  I love to burn essential oil scented candles.

Cultures throughout the world and through time have found ways to make a new home their own.  Here are some common ones I’ve seen used.

  • Smudging with sage – taken from Native American cultures, this consists of burning sage and wafting the smoke in all corners and crevices of the inside of the home. The smell of sage seems to clarify the mind, aid in relaxing, and it has been used to create sacred space.



  • Fresh air – an age-old way is to open all the windows and doors.  Let fresh air and sunlight in.



  • Salt water – some of my Catholic friends make their own version of holy water. They put sea salt in water and pray over the saline solution, then spray a mist in the air all over the house. Salt water is a long-used cleanser.


  • Essential oils – others fill their saline spray with essential oils such as lemon, lavender, sage, rosemary, rose, sweet orange. These scents have antibacterial and antiviral qualities and are known to clear the air and the energy of the home while delighting the senses.


  • Saffron and incense – Tibetans believe the scent of saffron wards away evil spirits and incense made of frankincense, myrrh, and benzoin have been used for centuries to purify space.


  • Salt lamp – Salt lamps are known to clear air and are also said to clean negativity from a space.

salt lamp

  • Sound – some people chant or sing, others believe in clapping, still others have a favorite music piece.  Better yet, why not dance?


  • Living indoor plants – again traditional in many cultures, plants such as lucky bamboo, rosemary, aloe vera, money plant, sage, holy basis, orchid, peace lily and jasmine add beauty, freshen the air, and boost positivity.


  • Crystals – people often place crystals in the middle of a room to repel negativity outward. Crystals such as black tourmaline, hematite, black onyx, amethyst, apache tear and smoky quartz are used by many, but I believe you can also choose something that appeals to you.


  • Feng Shui – a Chinese system of creating harmony in a home. It is a way to create a spatial arrangement that improves energy. It is complicated, but it embodies many elements such as decluttering the space, opening the rooms to air and sunshine, defining the best areas for money, love, spiritual health, physical health, and always being mindful of the quality of energy in your home.

feng sui



Portrait of happy family with two children sitting on sofa

For the sake of brevity, I have not gone into detail about any of these methods. Each can be explored extensively.  I encourage you to try out those that appeal to you and let me know if you feel the energy of your home improves.


About Shawn Phillips

As someone who has relocated several times – buying and selling houses of my own for personal and investment purposes – I can easily put myself in my clients’ shoes. I know what I needed from my Realtors and I attempt to provide that or better for my clients. My family relocated to Charleston six years ago and my love for the city and the lifestyle is one I enjoy sharing with others. Prior to entering real estate in the Low Country I was a hospital administrator for many years in Charleston and New York City and was a Realtor in Sarasota, Florida. Leveraging my experience, I pride myself in providing outstanding client service, availability, personal touches, multi-faceted marketing, and skilled negotiations. The level of trust given to me by a client is the greatest compliment I receive as a professional. It is the foundation of my practice. My dedication to each and every client is evident before, during, and after the sale!
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